“Orh hor!!! You last touch, your fault!”
1. I hope you are sincerely joking, otherwise this is quite childish.
2. Finger-pointing in the world seems common in the working world. It often seems to be about who points the fingers first, whether the “judge” bothers to clarify with the other person, whether you have the wits to turn the argument around and then pin the blame on someone else.
It takes discretion to see who’s playing the game. And if I were the boss, I wouldn’t care a hoot about how capable this person is but out you go. I’m not interested in lame office politics. (It’s especially lame when you are playing the politics alone and the person who’s being played can’t even be bothered about you.) I don’t have an interest in a staff who can’t bear responsibility either.
Maybe finger-pointing is so common in the working world because it’s more about fault-bearing than responsibility-bearing. People act blur or play the finger-pointing game so that they avoid the consequences. Yeah the uncertainties in these consequences are scary I suppose.
But what about when it comes to ‘I have a responsibility in this’? If I fail to meet expectations and I own up to it? Makes things more efficient, no? Your ‘yes’ is a ‘yes’ and your ‘no’ a ‘no’, and I can take your word for it instead of second-guessing what happened.
A fault’s always shunned and considered bad, but a responsibility, I guess, somewhat honourable. Think about it, responsibilities are put upon you because you are capable but faults land upon you seemingly to say that you are incapable. We need a paradigm shift I suppose.
Anyway, as to how I’m feeling. Uh, upset not simply because of this finger. I mean, if I’m innocent and you want to pin the blame on me, so be it, because your accusations are untrue anyway. And anyway, like I said, that will be childish if you meant it, so I’ll take it that you’re kidding. But I guess upset because I’ve been bearing the brunt of her insecurities since 50 over weeks ago and I am so sick and tired of it.