Just thinking about how I’ve been hearing people boast about their low maintenance friendships. Something that I personally would never do because I can’t seem to come to terms with that term, even though I haven’t put in much time to think through it.
Just read Luke’s caption about his meeting with his low maintenance friends and he ended off with “We should upgrade soon.” For once, that sounded different from the usual, and that sparked off some thoughts.
The boasts with low maintenance friendships often surround how even though they rarely meet, they have much to talk about. Hence, it’s not necessary to meet often to maintain a friendship. It just suddenly struck me that isn’t that duhh? If you haven’t met someone – just like how when I first meet a stranger – there’s all sorts of things to talk about because that’s how much we’ve missed out on each other’s lives. During such a meet up, we talk about what each other hasn’t already known, so yeah, it’s just an indication of how much we’ve missed out.
Yet at the same time, it probably doesn’t feel like we’ve missed out much because. We don’t bother actually. Think about it. You aren’t curious about his life, that’s why you don’t ask about his life, and it’s simply that you don’t bother. Maybe you care about him to some extent, but you definitely prioritised some/many friends or things over him. To put it bluntly, he is on your low priority list.
That’s it. That’s all.
Don’t get me wrong, it’s not that it’s wrong or that it’s a sin to do that. We all do that; I do that too. That’s because we have limited time and resource. But you know, just admit it and not sugar-coat it into a beautiful-magazine-scene that kinda stuff.
I have a few friends whom I hardly meet, too, for various reasons from both sides. I have my own share of “low maintenance friendships” too. The rare occasions we meet, yeah they definitely felt like great meet-ups with never-ending conversations. One of those friends, I used to only bump into her once a semester because of our time table differences, but I enjoyed every opportunity we had. Each meeting with fruitful conversation makes me leave feeling great about the friendship, but these make me yearn to meet them up soon to find out about their lives even more. Definite not a “This is such a wonderful low-maintenance friendship meet-up, let’s continue to rarely meet-up.” It’s the #weshouldupgradesoon, said Luke and I quote.
Just some raw thoughts.